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By: 120 Days of Tweeting | Jennifer V. Miller

120 Days of Tweeting | Jennifer V. Miller — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 21:15:41 +0000

[...] control freaks like me let go of needing to know everything. I’ve blogged about this in Nosy Neighbor and The Art of Serendipity. It’s continues to amaze me that the information I need to see manages [...]

By: Jane

Jane — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 01:43:07 +0000

There’s a certain saneness to the word ‘moderation’. Short answer motivators like Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, are quick glance & type solutions to our world that runs at a frenetic pace. Communication by USPS or face to face takes time. Even the phone call and email are time consuming so we gravitate toward a quicker vehicle for sending and receiving our messages. But at a price. The short moments turn into, ‘just one more peek, just one more tweep, just a few more glance overs’. Even the quick methods take time so we begin the painful weaning process. Sometimes, I wonder what we are losing in there in that time warp. Maybe we should take the time to go visit, write that card, make that phone call – or then again maybe we can have it all, but need to prioritize and figure out what to keep and what to let go – above all else, relationships are what matter. We don’t need to know it all, all the time. Maintaining and preserving relationships is a balancing act – comprised of letters, phone calls, twitter, personal visits, facebook, email – let the circle continue. You get to choose how big to make it and who to let inside it.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:09:48 +0000

Dee, yes it IS crazy-making. I love your idea about the RSS and it goes to Barb’s suggestion of getting clear about what you want your social media use to do for you.

You also highlight a great point that I’m finally figuring out– social media connects you to LOTS of people, but the reality is that there’s a smaller sub-set that you are most drawn to. Just as not every person in your office is your favorite person, so it is with social media. Focus on those that give you energy, are willing to collaborate and share information. The rest of the folks may be interesting, but simply not people that are meant to be in your daily life.

By: Deirdre

Deirdre — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:03:06 +0000

I just love following Twitter streams. I love FB updates. Whew. It’s crazy making.

One thing that I have done is starting follow specific ppl from Twitter on my RSS feed. I don’t have to see the whole stream – just those who I know will say something fun (you, Lisa, Steve, Mike) and I can gleen and go back to who knows what – my dog, my husband, my camera.

I don’t have a good balance but I am SO with you.

By: Barbara Giamanco

Barbara Giamanco — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 13:59:31 +0000

Great post, Jennifer! Just because we can doesn’t necessarily mean that we should, and I wonder how many people allow themselves to get sucked in as a way of avoiding or tackling that which is really most important.

My simple trick…decide what’s important and stick to it. I love social media, AND I manage technology – I do not allow it to manage me. I know clearly what I want to accomplish when I log in, so I get in and get out and move on with the day.

It reminds me of how people used to ask “how I could ignore the telephone at the office when it rang”, which I often did (and do!) if I had an important project or business objective to accomplish. My answer – just because the phone rang did not mean that I was required to answer it in that moment. It’s the same with email or Twitter or whatever. I “turn off” alerts, because they will tempt you to to stop what you are doing to check out the message and before you know it you’ve blown 30 minutes or more. This attitude takes practice and discipline, and it isn’t always easy.

I don’t need to know what’s happening in the world of Twitter, LinkedIn or Facebook 24/7. Honestly, I don’t actually care. I keep up when I need too and manage information on my own terms.

As for the texting, IM and tweets at dinner…well, that’s a rant for another day:)

By: Michael Krupa

Michael Krupa — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 00:19:48 +0000

Yikes. Busted. With my iPhone 3GS, I can be Mrs. Kravitz all the time (yes I am old enough to know who Mrs. Kravitz is). However, I usually get enough dirty looks from the Significant Other when checking twitter on my iPhone that I put it in my pocket. My trick is to use TweetDeck on my iPhone so I can catch up on my important groups.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 23:38:31 +0000

Lisa,

You are right– it’s an ever-evolving balancing act. Regarding “who’s in control?”– I’m envisioning a huge dog being “walked” by it’s owner. A passerby wonders, “Who’s walking whom?”

By: Lisa Rosendahl

Lisa Rosendahl — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 23:16:49 +0000

It is so hard to miss out on things and like you said – to get to a place where it is ok to let things pass you by. It would be so easy to let Twitter, Facebook consume you (me!) that I have to keep coming back to using social media to compliment my life – not control it. I personally am still swirling in it’s midst as I play with the right balance and determine my goals – building connections and relationships, yes – but to what end?

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 20:02:06 +0000

Mike,

It’s so very hard to get to that place where you feel it’s ok for things to pass you by. For me, it stems from a combo of curiosity AND the desire to “check things off the list”.

Thanks for chiming in….

By: Mike Henry Sr.

Mike Henry Sr. — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:38:32 +0000

Agreed! Everyone has to get to the point where it’s OK to miss things. I’m just glad I didn’t miss your post. It’s very good.

Mike…