Comments on: When OK is The Best We Can Expect http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/ Musings on mastering the people equation by Jennifer V. Miller Sat, 04 Sep 2010 11:40:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: John http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-192 John Wed, 21 Oct 2009 17:36:12 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-192 Hi Jennifer... Your post is a sign of the times. There are a lot of hurting people out there - or at least people who are doing "OK." My most read posting is How To Overcome Defeat. I really liked some of the other responses to your post and am a firm believer that we can choose our attitude, regardless of the situation... I just need to be reminded sometimes. :) Congrats on the 30 days!! John Hi Jennifer…

Your post is a sign of the times. There are a lot of hurting people out there – or at least people who are doing “OK.” My most read posting is How To Overcome Defeat. I really liked some of the other responses to your post and am a firm believer that we can choose our attitude, regardless of the situation… I just need to be reminded sometimes. :)
Congrats on the 30 days!!
John

]]> By: Jennifer http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Jennifer Tue, 06 Oct 2009 13:08:15 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-165 Bridget, Wow, what a very powerful and personal story about making the choosing the way you live. Thanks for stopping by to share it. Bridget,

Wow, what a very powerful and personal story about making the choosing the way you live. Thanks for stopping by to share it.

]]> By: Bridget Haymond http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-164 Bridget Haymond Tue, 06 Oct 2009 11:33:02 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-164 Having gone through a major health challenge that landed me in the hospital for a brain biopsy and financial challenges that had me contemplating bankruptcy, I now am a firm believer in choosing my attitude. When I’m able to let go of my expectations of other people or circumstances and embrace my own freedom to choose how I will process and respond in each circumstance, I can be better than okay even if the situation stinks. It’s not about denying the reality of our circumstances as that will only have a temporary effect. It’s about being proactive and working our way through them which feels so much better because we are no longer the caboose on the train. We may not be living the same lifestyle we once were, but if we and our loved ones are healthy, and we have food, clothing, and shelter we have far more than the majority of people on the planet and have much to be thankful for. Thanks for a great thought provoking question! Having gone through a major health challenge that landed me in the hospital for a brain biopsy and financial challenges that had me contemplating bankruptcy, I now am a firm believer in choosing my attitude.

When I’m able to let go of my expectations of other people or circumstances and embrace my own freedom to choose how I will process and respond in each circumstance, I can be better than okay even if the situation stinks.

It’s not about denying the reality of our circumstances as that will only have a temporary effect. It’s about being proactive and working our way through them which feels so much better because we are no longer the caboose on the train.

We may not be living the same lifestyle we once were, but if we and our loved ones are healthy, and we have food, clothing, and shelter we have far more than the majority of people on the planet and have much to be thankful for.

Thanks for a great thought provoking question!

]]> By: Jennifer http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-163 Jennifer Tue, 06 Oct 2009 10:29:44 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-163 Thomas, What a lovely turn of phrase- your expectations have "grown in charity". Need to turn that over in my mind a few times. . . Thomas,

What a lovely turn of phrase- your expectations have “grown in charity”. Need to turn that over in my mind a few times. . .

]]> By: Thomas Waterhouse http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-162 Thomas Waterhouse Tue, 06 Oct 2009 10:12:12 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-162 Hi Jennifer! This is a thought-provoking question. I think my expectations have taken on more humility and they have grown in charity. Certain goals "seemed to be" totally blocked; yet I'm beginning to see the true and more fulfilling directions meant for me. I grieve for those more severely impacted by recent events and so "the new fine" is having its graceful way with me. I think your question will challenge me for days to come, and that's a good thing! Thank you. Hi Jennifer! This is a thought-provoking question. I think my expectations have taken on more humility and they have grown in charity. Certain goals “seemed to be” totally blocked; yet I’m beginning to see the true and more fulfilling directions meant for me. I grieve for those more severely impacted by recent events and so “the new fine” is having its graceful way with me. I think your question will challenge me for days to come, and that’s a good thing! Thank you.

]]> By: Jennifer http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-161 Jennifer Mon, 05 Oct 2009 20:52:12 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-161 Mary Jo, The 30 Day Blogging Challenge ends 10/8 (3 days!) I need to count to be sure, but I think I will achieve the 30 posts in 30 days. Thanks for asking. It's good to have a very concrete stretch goal with a short time horizon. Mary Jo,

The 30 Day Blogging Challenge ends 10/8 (3 days!) I need to count to be sure, but I think I will achieve the 30 posts in 30 days. Thanks for asking. It’s good to have a very concrete stretch goal with a short time horizon.

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://people-equation.com/when-ok-is-the-best-we-can-expect/comment-page-1/#comment-160 Mary Jo Asmus Mon, 05 Oct 2009 20:45:20 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=256#comment-160 Hi Jennifer - are you coming up on 30 days, yet? I think a response to the question "how are you" may be based on context. Our lives are complex, and if we focus on whats depressing, or upsetting, this is where our minds go and how we respond. Interestingly, as the asker, if we want to change the conversation by changing the question, we might ask a question that is more specific - such as "how is the gourmet cooking hobby going?" or " how's your love life?" - we may well get a different answer. Its a point to ponder. I've found that some of the most negative people can be turned around with the right question. Hi Jennifer – are you coming up on 30 days, yet?

I think a response to the question “how are you” may be based on context. Our lives are complex, and if we focus on whats depressing, or upsetting, this is where our minds go and how we respond.

Interestingly, as the asker, if we want to change the conversation by changing the question, we might ask a question that is more specific – such as “how is the gourmet cooking hobby going?” or ” how’s your love life?” – we may well get a different answer.

Its a point to ponder. I’ve found that some of the most negative people can be turned around with the right question.

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