Comments on: Whose Race are You Running? http://people-equation.com/whose-race-are-you-running/ Musings on mastering the people equation by Jennifer V. Miller Wed, 08 Sep 2010 19:25:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Janet Cortright http://people-equation.com/whose-race-are-you-running/comment-page-1/#comment-244 Janet Cortright Tue, 17 Nov 2009 04:26:35 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=305#comment-244 Hi Jennifer . . . The Marlo Thomas story is wonderful! I had the book at one time. Not only did Danny Thomas tell his daughter to "run her own race," - he told her that he "raised her as a thoroughbred," and he bought her a set of horse blinders for her birthday - to help her stay focused on her own race. Wonderful advice! It looks like you're staying focused and running your own race . . . with great posts and tweets etc. Enjoy your success. Let's talk soon. Hi Jennifer . . .

The Marlo Thomas story is wonderful! I had the book at one time.

Not only did Danny Thomas tell his daughter to “run her own race,” – he told her that he “raised her as a thoroughbred,” and he bought her a set of horse blinders for her birthday – to help her stay focused on her own race. Wonderful advice!

It looks like you’re staying focused and running your own race . . . with great posts and tweets etc.

Enjoy your success. Let’s talk soon.

]]> By: Does Your Garage Have Curtains? | Jennifer V. Miller http://people-equation.com/whose-race-are-you-running/comment-page-1/#comment-243 Does Your Garage Have Curtains? | Jennifer V. Miller Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:34:41 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=305#comment-243 [...] posts have generated some lively discussion.  See my posts on the effects of praise and how to “run your own race” to see the thread of the conversation. This theme continues with a random observation from my [...] [...] posts have generated some lively discussion.  See my posts on the effects of praise and how to “run your own race” to see the thread of the conversation. This theme continues with a random observation from my [...]

]]> By: Jennifer http://people-equation.com/whose-race-are-you-running/comment-page-1/#comment-235 Jennifer Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:24:25 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=305#comment-235 Sarah, How interesting that you perceive Sally's reaction to be that of jealousy. If I have portrayed it as such, that was not my intention. She was simply wondering if she was doing all she "should" as a business owner to be successful, both for herself professionally and for the health of her company. Thanks for stopping by; you are new to the blog. I appreciate your comments! Sarah,

How interesting that you perceive Sally’s reaction to be that of jealousy. If I have portrayed it as such, that was not my intention. She was simply wondering if she was doing all she “should” as a business owner to be successful, both for herself professionally and for the health of her company.

Thanks for stopping by; you are new to the blog. I appreciate your comments!

]]> By: Sarah Nguyen http://people-equation.com/whose-race-are-you-running/comment-page-1/#comment-234 Sarah Nguyen Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:28:48 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=305#comment-234 It's interesting to note that you perceived Sally's question as a sign of jealousy. I think it's normal for people to use the success of others to benchmark their own successes against. I guess sometimes measuring yourself against yourself doesn't always cut it (psychologically). It’s interesting to note that you perceived Sally’s question as a sign of jealousy. I think it’s normal for people to use the success of others to benchmark their own successes against. I guess sometimes measuring yourself against yourself doesn’t always cut it (psychologically).

]]> By: Susan Mazza http://people-equation.com/whose-race-are-you-running/comment-page-1/#comment-229 Susan Mazza Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:02:45 +0000 http://jennifervmiller.com/?p=305#comment-229 “Run your own race, baby.” Love it! Thinking out loud here on your question why do we compare ourselves to others? It is interesting that praise that illuminates something specific about us rather than compares us to another is more effective. In reading this I am wondering if one of the reasons we are more likely to compare ourselves to others in our own minds is that our culture frowns upon "tooting our own horn". We talk a lot about being unique and celebrating our unique contribution, but it only seems ok when someone else appreciates our uniqueness. Does complimenting ourselves in our own mind get caught in a "filter" that says self promotion is the ego talking and lacks character? Great post Jennifer. “Run your own race, baby.” Love it!

Thinking out loud here on your question why do we compare ourselves to others?

It is interesting that praise that illuminates something specific about us rather than compares us to another is more effective. In reading this I am wondering if one of the reasons we are more likely to compare ourselves to others in our own minds is that our culture frowns upon “tooting our own horn”. We talk a lot about being unique and celebrating our unique contribution, but it only seems ok when someone else appreciates our uniqueness. Does complimenting ourselves in our own mind get caught in a “filter” that says self promotion is the ego talking and lacks character?

Great post Jennifer.

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