Are you a nosy person? I wouldn’t typically describe myself this way. On any given day, I go about my work, mind my own business and basically try to respect people’s right to privacy.
Except that doesn’t seem to apply to my social media use. At what point did I turn into Mrs. Kravitz? (You know, from the sitcom Bewitched…the ultra-nosy snooping neighbor that lived across the street from Darrin and Samantha Stephens.) For some reason, I’ve become Need-to-Know Lady, especially with Twitter. There I am, logging in to Twitter again…checking to see what my tweeps are up to.
Social media is really pushing us to examine our boundaries. News articles are starting to pop up about families sitting at the dinner table, all texting, IM’ing or Twittering on their respective cell phones. That’s a sobering thought.
The other day, though, I had an epiphany. I don’t need to know what everybody is doing, 24/7, nor should I want to. I can’t possibly know what all of my non-Twitter friends are doing or saying at any given moment. So, it’s OK to miss some of the Tweet stream. In fact it’s ok to miss lots of it. Comic Stephen Wright says, “You can’t have it all. Where would you put it?” That’s a good mantra for social media use too—“You can’t read it all. And why would you want to?”
So for now, when I’m tempted to check in, I remind myself, “You don’t need to know this right now… it can wait. And if you miss something, it will come back around to find you in a different way.”
What are your tips for managing the urge to “check in” more often than’s necessary?