When I was a kid, struggling about going for a new opportunity my mom would say, “What’s it hurt to ask? The worst they can say is ‘no’.”
Same message by Dan McCarthy of Great Leadership in his post Career Advice Part 4: You Have to Ask for It. . .
. . . and then again last week when I attended a fantastic Gaining Mind Capture presentation by Tony Rubleski on asking your best clients for referrals. . .
Then last night I got the following DM from Erin Schreyer :
She’s referring to my article featured on the Forbes.com site (“above the fold”, no less!). This article came about after I made a pitch to the Deputy Editor of the online magazine.
See a theme here? It’s about making the ask.
Now, if you got back to Dan’s blog post and read the comments, you’ll see push back from people doubting that you’ll get something just because you asked for it. People saying that simply asking doesn’t do any good and that it’s just an exercise in futility.
Here’s what I’m thinking about that:
- If you don’t ask, you’re increasing your odds of not getting what you want. See GL Hoffman’s brilliant “He Ain’t Coming, Folks” to lay it out plain and simple.
- It’s about timing—I “made the ask” of the ForbesWoman editor after spending time following and being involved in the same social media platforms that she frequents. I built credibility before asking.
- And (thank you, Mom)—so WHAT if they do say no? You can choose to figure out a new strategy for getting what you want. Or, you can simply move on. Either way, it doesn’t have to destroy you. It’s just “no.”
What are you wishing for, waiting for, hoping for? What’s out there that may, just may be within your grasp if you are willing to make the ask?